Matter of fact, a quick Google search of “how often do cheaters get caught” will produce a long list of articles. I tell them how I want to give her a big surprise by sneaking into our room. And if their wife forgives them, they believe they've got carte blanche to carry on. Husband Finds Out His Wife Is Cheating On Him, Then Throws Her a Surprise Birthday Party For His Wife, Entire Family Finds Her. You just found out and offered me an ultimatum: get out or get help.